Couples Can Easily Gain These Awarenesses
The quickest, simplest, and most comprehensive way to gain self-awareness of your and your partner’s inner world is from the Inner Enneagram and the Spiritual Enneagram system. This is a simple and easily learned system that enables you to make profound sense of your inner world, and for every person that you know. You, your partner, your children, your parents and siblings, your friends, you boss and co-worker – even everyone you meet!
As a couples therapist, I started using the popular Personality Enneagram with clients in the 1980’s. As each of the partners opened up in the sessions, however, a new dimension emerged of inner dynamics that have been unrecognized in the Personality Enneagram’s primary focus on the outer personality.
In the sessions it became evident that partners of the same Enneagram personality type consistently shared together the same distinctive inner forces that generated their inner world. They shared the same gifts as well as the same core ego needs, sensitivities, insecurities, pressures, and the same imbalances that affected themselves and their relationships. As a result, a new consistent framework of self-awareness within the personality emerged that I call the Inner Enneagram.
Also in this process of working with couples each person’s inner essential nature became clear. And that people of the same Enneagram personality type also share the same specific inherent gifts and pure talents in their personality. This revelation and body of knowledge generated the Spiritual Enneagram.
Gaining this dimension of inner awareness was an intimate experience for partners. As a result, partners were able to better understand, attune to, and increasingly live from and appreciate each other’s individual pure nature at the core of their being.
Couples who gained these awarenesses also discovered that they now processed differences, tensions and issues in a completely different way than before. This led to a new orientation, with new frameworks and tools for safely resolving conflict in the relationship.
Couples found that they can readily learn these new communication skills, conflict resolution tools, and intimacy skills that uniquely emerged from this orientation. They give individuals and couples the life skills necessary to sustain and deepen the intimacy and connection together.
Combined, these new shared awarenesses and skills made all the difference for couples and individuals seeking to safely resolve their issues and deepen their intimacy in their relationships, and within themselves.
“My wife and I have seen our fair share of counselors, but after our first session with Chris, it was our first time leaving a session feeling like we just had our first date. Chris’ strategies provided us with the insight to begin to understand each other, as well as ourselves. Chris provides us with the tools to diffuse situations allowing us to work together as opposed to working against one another.
Chris is our marriage coach/trainer/doctor that we plan to continue to see to assist us along our way. We believe in Chris so much that we gift his services to several of our married friends.” – Dr. Mike Davis, DPT
Lastly, couples discovered that it does not take long to develop these awarenesses and skills in coaching sessions. This is a short term process. So the process does need to cost an arm and a leg. They can also gain these awarenesses in reading the Conscious Person series.
The reason you can quickly gain these new awarenesses because you are benefiting from the increased personal awareness gained by all of the couples of your type who have gone before you. The map of their findings is all laid out for you. This is from an email by someone who purchased the book series:
“You are amazing, and your work is more than remarkable. I’ve closely read and studied more than a dozen Enneagram books over the years, and none of them comes close to yours. I finally feel “all the pieces coming together” as I read your work. I think you don’t realize how much of a treasure this is for humanity.” – Matthew
In working with couples the Inner Enneagram revealed Six Dynamics that were found to fundamentally affect each partner’s inner personal world and their relationship’s success. Let’s review each of these:
Continue to Discovery 1:
Each Other’s Core Ego Needs